Books for Singles
When was the last time you heard a teaching from the pulpit on how to find your spouse? It's been awhile for me...come to think of it....never.
Could that be why millions of Christian singles are turning to the bookstores for answers? And, admittedly many of us have even turned to secular books and resources seeking advise on why we're still single...how to be single...or how not to be single.
Dr. Phil McGraw and Greg Behrendt (He's Just Not That Into You) offer some helpful advise, if you can sift through many of the moral issues that don't align with Christ-followers.
Greg's book, for example, helped me better understand guys. Ladies, if a guy doesn't call you after meeting you, guess what? He's just not into you. He hit me with a reality big stick and I now don't make excuses about why a guy doesn't call.
In Dr. Phil.com (Advice: How to Land Your Man), the love doc says, "Leave the house. Visit target-rich environments. Think about where this type of guy would hang out - a target-rich environment - and go there."
Some places Dr. Phil suggests going are: church or temple, batting cages, sporting events, bars, music festival, art galleries, parks, philanthropic group events, bookstores, coffee shops and hardware stores. With the exception of bars and batting cages, I've frequented these places and nada (that's Spanish for nothing).
Maybe I missed something, so back to the bookstore. Voila! Dr. Henry Cloud, author of "How to Get a Date Worth Keeping (Be Dating in Six Months or Your Money Back)" gave me a few more pointers. Did you know that God can speak to us through books?
The good doc recommends meeting five new men each week, anywhere and everywhere, and striking up a conversation with them. WIth my lifestyle as an entrepreneur, though, I found this exercise exhausting. But, it helped me discover that it takes attitude to meet guys. And, since my mind was heavy with other attitudes.....well, what can I say....this exercise didn't work for me back then.
But, Dr. Cloud addresses this common issue among singles in his book. He pointed out a single woman who had alot of guy friends. When Dr. Cloud's married friend described her, he said, "Her open heart invites them, and they sense she is warm and safe."
This Christian love doctor said it well. "The state of someone's internal world of attitudes, openness and fears has a lot to do with what happens in the outside world, especially in the world of dating."
When all is said and read, it comes down to one thing. What does God want us to do or not do on our journey as singles? On bended knees.....
Could that be why millions of Christian singles are turning to the bookstores for answers? And, admittedly many of us have even turned to secular books and resources seeking advise on why we're still single...how to be single...or how not to be single.
Dr. Phil McGraw and Greg Behrendt (He's Just Not That Into You) offer some helpful advise, if you can sift through many of the moral issues that don't align with Christ-followers.
Greg's book, for example, helped me better understand guys. Ladies, if a guy doesn't call you after meeting you, guess what? He's just not into you. He hit me with a reality big stick and I now don't make excuses about why a guy doesn't call.
In Dr. Phil.com (Advice: How to Land Your Man), the love doc says, "Leave the house. Visit target-rich environments. Think about where this type of guy would hang out - a target-rich environment - and go there."
Some places Dr. Phil suggests going are: church or temple, batting cages, sporting events, bars, music festival, art galleries, parks, philanthropic group events, bookstores, coffee shops and hardware stores. With the exception of bars and batting cages, I've frequented these places and nada (that's Spanish for nothing).
Maybe I missed something, so back to the bookstore. Voila! Dr. Henry Cloud, author of "How to Get a Date Worth Keeping (Be Dating in Six Months or Your Money Back)" gave me a few more pointers. Did you know that God can speak to us through books?
The good doc recommends meeting five new men each week, anywhere and everywhere, and striking up a conversation with them. WIth my lifestyle as an entrepreneur, though, I found this exercise exhausting. But, it helped me discover that it takes attitude to meet guys. And, since my mind was heavy with other attitudes.....well, what can I say....this exercise didn't work for me back then.
But, Dr. Cloud addresses this common issue among singles in his book. He pointed out a single woman who had alot of guy friends. When Dr. Cloud's married friend described her, he said, "Her open heart invites them, and they sense she is warm and safe."
This Christian love doctor said it well. "The state of someone's internal world of attitudes, openness and fears has a lot to do with what happens in the outside world, especially in the world of dating."
When all is said and read, it comes down to one thing. What does God want us to do or not do on our journey as singles? On bended knees.....
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