Beware of Spiritual Dating
What is spiritual dating? It's happens when you are friends with a Christian guy.....but you've both agreed that you aren't going to date but remain just friends....but you are really subconsciously sort of dating. Sound confusing? Well... it is.
I've heard about a half-dozen stories from friends who were heartbroken after having been in spiritual dating situations without having even been aware of it.
If two people are hanging out and sort of "spiritually dating" why don't they just go ahead and openly date, you may wonder? I have found that it's usually because both people have already predetermined that their destinies are not at all connected and therefore, they are not meant to get married.
In any case, the two spiritual people agree to pray with one another - alone. Oh, oh. Spiritual ties start forming and you become even more drawn to one another even though you know that you are not meant for one another. Together, you enter spiritual depths of intimacy....but you're just friends.
He starts calling you daily - more than some of your closest girl friends....but you're not dating. Like many older single women starved for attention, this begins to arouse the woman in you.....repressed attraction begins to brew. Oh my! Then, he begins to touch you .....put his arms around you.. pat you on the knee.....make flirtatious comments.....but you're just friends.
Remember, you're not meant for one another, but face it, a part of you likes the attention from a guy.
No matter how much you try to reason or excuse yourself by saying you're just friends or that he needs your prayers, the heart thing kicks in and boom.....the heart starts to beat to the rhythm of the calls.... the attention...and you're hooked... but you're just friends.
What to do? Be honest with yourself and the purpose of this "friendship." Are you subtly using one another to meet your needs for attention from the opposite sex? Like the Word says, let your yes be yes and your no be no. If you're going to just be friends, then act like friends and not as couples and set up boundaries. And if at all possible, seek pastoral counsel or someone who can hold you accountable...give you a fresh and prayerful perspective....like the truth.
Even though he may be a faithful member of a Christian church, remember, he's still a guy and you're still a gal .....with a vulnerable heart. Take care of it.
I've heard about a half-dozen stories from friends who were heartbroken after having been in spiritual dating situations without having even been aware of it.
If two people are hanging out and sort of "spiritually dating" why don't they just go ahead and openly date, you may wonder? I have found that it's usually because both people have already predetermined that their destinies are not at all connected and therefore, they are not meant to get married.
In any case, the two spiritual people agree to pray with one another - alone. Oh, oh. Spiritual ties start forming and you become even more drawn to one another even though you know that you are not meant for one another. Together, you enter spiritual depths of intimacy....but you're just friends.
He starts calling you daily - more than some of your closest girl friends....but you're not dating. Like many older single women starved for attention, this begins to arouse the woman in you.....repressed attraction begins to brew. Oh my! Then, he begins to touch you .....put his arms around you.. pat you on the knee.....make flirtatious comments.....but you're just friends.
Remember, you're not meant for one another, but face it, a part of you likes the attention from a guy.
No matter how much you try to reason or excuse yourself by saying you're just friends or that he needs your prayers, the heart thing kicks in and boom.....the heart starts to beat to the rhythm of the calls.... the attention...and you're hooked... but you're just friends.
What to do? Be honest with yourself and the purpose of this "friendship." Are you subtly using one another to meet your needs for attention from the opposite sex? Like the Word says, let your yes be yes and your no be no. If you're going to just be friends, then act like friends and not as couples and set up boundaries. And if at all possible, seek pastoral counsel or someone who can hold you accountable...give you a fresh and prayerful perspective....like the truth.
Even though he may be a faithful member of a Christian church, remember, he's still a guy and you're still a gal .....with a vulnerable heart. Take care of it.
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